Monday, October 28, 2019

Episode #22: Needles, teeth cleanings, & haircuts, oh my!

In this very special podcast episode, I interview Jonathan Chase (Autistic Advocate, writer, presenter, and consultant) about his experiences with medical and dental appointments. He shares his experiences and some excellent ideas with the audience. The intense sensory experience is and has been overwhelming to say the least.

You can find more about Jonathan Chase at his website:

Friday, October 18, 2019

Episode #21: Behavior Babble on the Book: The Autistic Brain by Temple Grandin

Barb and Pam read The Autistic Brain by Temple Grandin. We share our thoughts on the book and both agree that Temple Grandin is still amazing and worth not only reading but checking out her work online on youtube, her site, etc!

Temple Grandin's website:
Book we read: The Autistic Brain by Temple Grandin, 2013

Friday, September 13, 2019

Episode #20: Behavior Babble on From Surviving to Thriving in School!

From Surviving to Thriving: Classroom Accommodations for Students on the Autism Spectrum
By Jonathan Chase
Self-published and available on Amazon

The author
His website:
Interview with Jonathan on this Synergy Autism Podcast - Episode #7

Summary of our thoughts on the book
Behavior Babble listeners will enjoy this quick and informative read from advocate, author, and mentor with Autism, Jonathan Chase. Jonathan’s focus on classroom accommodations is thorough, contains specific recommendations, and is rooted in a larger context of why a student with Autism might need one type of support or another. 

Barb and Pam noticed a consistent theme of supporting students to have choices and agency in their own learning. Whether you are starting the school year off or jumping in midstream, it is never too late to support young people through classroom accommodations that could make life easier for everyone in the class.

Barb and Pam appreciate the structure of the book that includes bullet-point lists of suggestions along with anecdotal examples of how a student has used similar accommodations in their academic life. Listen as they discuss the merits of the book and the benefits of it as a resource to teachers at any grade level. As Barb said, “He does a beautiful job of being very respectful of teachers….He has come out with this gift for teachers who are overwhelmed…”

Wednesday, August 14, 2019

Episode #19: Regulation is Required for Curiosity to Thrive

Here, Synergy Autism Center's owner, Barbara Avila shares the essential nature of regulation for
curiosity and learning to thrive.
A child who is curious is learning, growing, and thriving. They are active and engaged in exploring
the world and trying to figure out how things and people around them work. They imitate.
They follow. They experiment. They fail and recover. They take risks and experience accidents.
They gaze to their caregivers to determine safety or confirm their curiosity. They engage with
the world. They are intrigued by the unexpected and the unpredictable within their developmental

Co-Regulation Leads to Regulation 
In order for a child to be curious, their internal state must be ready for new learning.
A newborn is not ready for a whole lot of stimulation without getting overwhelmed and
dysregulated, for example. However, as a child gets older, their system learns to be
slightly stressed and to re-regulate to accommodate the new information and learning.
This development happens first by borrowing the parent or caregivers’ regulation.
This is why we sing, rock, and coo with babies. We are helping them learn to regulate
their own systems by co-regulating. Something has stressed their little systems and we are
there to share our regulation and bring them back to homeostasis. 

Dysregulation Leads to Symptoms of Autism
What if, however, a child is not able to soothe through co-regulation or their system develops
in a unique manner that challenges their regulation later in development past the typical
rocking and singing together phase? That child may seek out patterns that are soothing
or objects that are within his/her control to gain that regulation. They may not seek out
their caregivers due to their social engagement being too overwhelming. They may retreat
to inanimate objects and patterns of sameness for safety, security, and soothing. 
Co-Regulation Throughout Our Lives
As humans, we seek connection with others. We find great pleasure when a new friend
shares common interests and when you find synchrony between you without much effort.
This feeling energizes us and deepens our understanding of ourselves as well as the other
person. Many of us engage in activities that recreate this feeling (e.g., tennis, golf, board
games, dancing). These are very dynamic in nature while they are still, at the root,
co-regulating shared experiences.

Reducing Stressors for Someone with Autism
First and foremost, for a child or person on the autism spectrum to regulate and be at
their best for optimal curiosity and learning, they need you to be predictable, quiet,
deliberate, and confident. They need you to help keep life manageable so natural learning
and growing can occur. This happens by ensuring a routine schedule for daily life,
especially bedtime routines and morning routines. It happens by reducing your clutter
both visually and the words you use (streamline to only the essential words). It means
allowing processing time for a person with autism to shift their attention from one thing
to another (or you). 

Ten Ways to Reduce Stressors so that Curiosity Can Thrive
Regardless of intervention strategies, curriculum, or parenting approach you are using,
here are my top ten tools for reducing stressors for someone with autism.

Regulate yourself first. Take deep breaths, count to 10, assess your own stress level.
Calm your own system so that you can calm someone else’s. It never works
to approach someone in a stressed or anxious state.

Partner with the person with autism. Offer partnerships for anything and everything
from opening a door together to opening a bag of food together. We feel more
successful when we can be helpful and involved with clear expectations. This also
provides opportunities for co-regulation.

Make it visual. Bring something from being all auditory into being also visual (
i.e., a point, a body positioning cue, a drawing, a photo).

Allow processing time. Most people with autism have auditory processing needs
and have trouble shifting quickly from one task or activity to another. Allowing time
to process a question or simply your silent presence can help immensely with reducing
anxiety and stress levels.

Declutter. Simply reducing the amount of visual clutter in your home or classroom can
significantly help lower stress levels (yours and your child’s). But don’t forget about
auditory clutter too. We all tend to talk too much. Reduce your words by saying
only the essentials. 

Respect sensory support and/or breaks. People with autism and attention deficits
often need to move to think. Some need to pace, others need to flap, others need to
chew on something. Respect that need and plan for it. Otherwise, that person will find
other ways of getting that need met and you may not be as satisfied with the outcome.

Provide boundaries. Just because your child or student has autism does not mean
that you allow challenging behaviors. Children/people with autism need boundaries to
feel safe and secure. They are stress-reducing when the guide holds to them with high
expectations while simplifying the environment and ensuring clarity.

Celebrate strengths. The incredible focus and/or detail-oriented mind does seem to
come with autism. Offer times of the day that topics of extreme interest are fully allowed
and celebrated. Just be sure to also balance these with social and/or decision-making
opportunities every day.

Use mindful communication. The communication you use can make a huge impact
on a person’s processing and stress level. Aim to engage your child’s mind rather than
having him/her mindless respond. Stating something like “it’s time to go” can elicit
more thinking on your child’s behalf about what is required to go rather than your cuing
them verbally through “get your shoes, put them on, get your coat, put it on, get your
backpack,” etc. Engaging someone’s mind in his own actions keeps them from fixating
on stress or anxiety.

Turn frustration into fascination. We all make mistakes. We all push people over their
edge of competency at times without realizing it. Take those moments as information
about the person’s stress level. Instead of avoiding that same situation, it is essential
to return to it with new fascination and your own curiosity about how to better support
them through that moment. As one client shared with me, she said when she experiences
a “red flag moment,” she reminds herself to “return to the flag.” Returning with more
success brings up everyone’s confidence levels.


Thursday, August 1, 2019

Episode #18: Parenting with Love & Logic Book Review on Behavior Babble

In this episode of Behavior Babble with Barb and Pam, we dive into the book Parenting with Love & Logic by Foster Cline, M.D. and Jim Fay, 1990, 2006.

There are some excellent words of wisdom and useful strategies in this book. In summary, "using enforceable thinking words, giving choices, displaying no anger - these are the ingredients for establishing firm limits with our kids." (pg 77). We discuss our take on these and other tools from this book and conclude with the fact that in order for parents to be able to "display no anger," let alone offer these options in a clear, consistent manner, they must be taking care of themselves first and foremost.

Barb shared the TILT podcast she enjoyed recently when Dr. Rita Eichenstein was interviewed. She discussed the importance of professionals realizing that children have parents who are going through their own developmental processes that need support and guidance, too! Check out that podcast by clicking HERE.

Barb is the owner of Synergy Autism Center and Pam is the owner of Pam Smith Consulting both supporting individuals and families on the autism spectrum.


Friday, May 24, 2019

Episode #17: Self-Reg by Dr. Shankar (on Behavior Babble with Barb and Pam)

This episode of Behavior Babble continues our book review theme. Join Barb and Pam as we talk about Dr. Stuart Shankar's book: Self Reg. We found this book an absolute essential for any family's home bookshelf. Enjoy our review!

Tuesday, April 2, 2019

Episode #16: BEHAVIOR BABBLE - 123 Magic Book Review

This episode of Behavior Babble continues our book review theme. Join Barb and Pam as we talk about Dr. Thomas Phelan's book 1-2-3 Magic. We found the parenting strategies within this book to be comprehensive yet simple. Enjoy our review!

or find us in iTunes under Synergy Autism Podcast

Friday, March 1, 2019

Episode #15: BEHAVIOR BABBLE! 2nd 1/2 of Book Review: 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child (part 2)

Behavior Babble continues with part 2 our book review of "10 Days to a Less Defiant Child" by Jeffrey Bernstein. Barb and Pam review the last chapters of the book and reflect on how the book has been helpful in their support of parents. From garnering support in the extended family to working with school and other professionals, Bernstein and 10 Days has great tips, tricks, and reminders to help families support their defiant child.

Thursday, January 17, 2019

Episode #14: BEHAVIOR BABBLE! Book Review of Ten Days To A Less Defiant Child (part 1)

The series, "Behavior Babble with Barb and Pam" continues! For this episode, we decided to read a popular best seller about behavior and give our two cents. Maybe this will help you pick it up or not? The book we chose was Ten Days To A Less Defiant Child by Dr. Jeffery Bernstein.